Friday, June 26, 2015

I Am a Woman Who Has Sex

I've been on Alysena for five days now. It's the generic name for Alesse, a popular birth control brand. I never thought I'd use an oral contraceptive or even non-hormonal ones before marriage. I never desired to be sexually active before marriage. How it happened is a hodgepodge of factors, some naïve, some unsavoury. The first time isn't normally due to marital passion; wanting to eternally be close to the person and forever hold a special place in their precious souls. Admittedly, I did have that idea in mind when it happened. But we're adults now.

Or are we?

Because I'm really laughing over the fact that despite the hypersexual media that surrounds us that is unquestioned and accepted, once you break that veil of seduction and insinuation, you are a WHORE. A bad, filthy, cum-dumpster WHORE. Not if you're male though. It's cool. You're a winner if you a lad ("Go master key! Open them legs Unlock them doors!")

The article that was trending on Facebook was Kaitlyn Bristowe. The extremely attractive star of The Bachelorette. Basically, she was heavily criticized for having sex with a contestant early on in the show (because women aren't allowed to have sex before developing life-long-committing feelings).

I thought it was ridiculous. You kidding me? She's a grown-ass woman. She's thirty for crying out loud. Kaitlyn can have sex with whoever she wants whenever she wants HOWEVER she wants!*
*Obvious limitations to that statement pertaining to the law.

I think... I think it's amazing that people are more critical of adult consensual sex than fucking sex trafficking.They kick up a fuss, they call Kaitlyn names, apparently it's a dirty deed but everything else that is explicitly wrong, e.g. rape/catcalling/harassment/molestation, is not a big deal because the recipient induced it in one way or another.



I mean, I mean, I'd react that way when I was 15. When I didn't know very much about intercourse and felt wary of people who were sexually experienced. I didn't know how different it made them or what kind of people they were if they have had or is continually having sex without guilt.

Today, on Facebook again, Bristol Palin was trending. Tina Fey's--I mean, Sarah Palin's daughter. (I love you Tina Fey and the whole cast of 30 Rock and Bossypants. Mucho a'more! Mwah, mwah, mwah!) Bristol is 24, pregnant, unmarried, and already has one child. Oh yeah, she's Republican too. Hahahhahahaha.

Wanna know a cool coincidence? Kaitlyn Bristowe. Bristol Palin. Kaitlyn Bristowe. Bristol Palin. Kaitlyn Bristol. Bristowe Palin. Kaitlyn Bristowle Palin. Who? What? Where?


I want to tell Bristol (the politician's daughter in case you're confused) that what is happening is understandable and I hope that your case would open the eyes of Republicans. As you know, this wasn't planned. You didn't want this to happen; it came unexpectedly. Not every woman that will go through what you're going has the same resources as you do. They're not rich and powerful. Abortion would be the best route for these ladies. If they choose not to abort, Republicans should not staunchly cut off welfare to the people who need it. DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOW? SO STOP FUCKING TELLING WOMEN TO BE PRUDES. Women don't aspire to get an abortion. Cutting off coverage for and criminalizing abortion does nothing but harm to society.

I do not think less of you as a woman but as a human being. I am embarrassed for you to have rode the high horse of celibacy only to have fallen so conspicuously. You're plain pregnant. There's no easy denial of sexual activity. If only it were a lover who leaked rumours of physical intimacy with you. I bet people would believe you if you said you were divinely impregnated. (Many years ago, I heard there's insurance coverage for that.)
Bristol's constant referral to God drives me nuts too. What a fucking Pharisee behavior. "God is merciful," "God [is] by [her] side", look everyone, miracle of life, it's not like I killed someone, hallelujah, hallelujah, Life! You'd say anything to understate the hypocrisy. Of course, shift the spotlight to God. God is all great and powerful and mighty. Pregnancy is no big deal. God's blessing and forgiveness is bigger than all of this.

But what you advocated swayed many young girls into believing they would never have sex before marriage because they didn't need to. These young girls first experience and continuation would likely be very dangerous because they didn't think they needed (actual, legitimate, informative) sex education. You're lucky to be pregnant and a parent with your privilege. I can only imagine how it is actually like for other girls and women to be a single parent or pregnant... or a yet-again-pregnant single parent with half the advantages you have.


You know, I didn't even start taking "birth control" for birth control. I wanted oral contraceptives to manipulate my menstruation. I absolutely hate menstruating. I've thought about a hysterectomy for several years. After studying a little on hormonal contraception, I learned that I could control when my period is due. I never knew you could postpone your period. I didn't know you could delay it for three months! I thought, as a woman, I. HAD. TO. bleed every three weeks. Hence my experimentation with synthetic hormones.

Kaitlyn Bristowle Palin, just keep having sex... or not. You owe no one answers as long as you do not propel dumb ass ideas and impose fucking stupid laws on the masses.


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